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TO EACH HIS or HER OWN…SADIST or MASOCHIST

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“Sticks and stones may break my bones but chains and whips excite me.” S&M by Rihanna   

Yes, I’m going there.

How can pain be pleasurable, whether receiving and/or giving it? Who likes being tied up and unable to actively participate in coitus? The thought of being gagged and bound can only be a horrifying experience or is it?

Sadomasochism (S&M) is the receiving of pleasure—often sexual—from acts involving the infliction or reception of pain or humiliation” – courtesy of wikipedia.com

I must confess, after reading the 50 SHADES Trilogy written by E.L. James, my interest has been ignited by this road less travelled. Also, I was of the belief that those who enjoy this type of kink in their sexual activities are usually having some kind of psychological issues. I was wrong.

Adding a little spice to the bedroom can improve certain aspects of a couple’s relationship, even if it is some kinky spice. What impresses me most is that S&M has rules, roles, it’s pretty much organised with great consideration for the safety of its participants (however there are some real psychos out there but I’m not venturing into the dark side of it). Generally speaking:

  • There is a Dominant (Master or Mistress), the one who does the tying up, whipping, etc.
  • There is a Submissive, the one who receives whatever their dominant imparts.
  • Safe words are used by the submissive to let the dominant knows if he/she cannot bear anymore and just wants to stop.
  • The submissive actually runs the show because they determine what activities they want and at what level of intensity.

Who am I to judge?  If it’s between two consenting adults then nothing is wrong with it. I see it as another form of Role Playing, instead of the usual Nurse and Patient, we have the Owner and the Property (I really wanted to say Kidnapper and Hostage but I don’t want to turn you off *chuckling*).