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What if it were you?…and other questions about Rape.

It is known all over the world that in the African Continent children are being raped everyday because of some superstitious belief that having sex with a virgin cures HIV/AIDS.

QUESTION#1 : WHAT ARE WE AS HUMAN BEINGS DOING TO EDUCATE THEM ABOUT HIV/AIDS AND TO PROTECT THE YOUNG?

 

For centuries women have been raped for some sort of reason concerning power, whether personal, political, tribal, or it’s used as a weapon in war.

QUESTION#2 : WHEN ARE WE GOING STOP BEING GREEDY, SELFISH AND BARBARIC? EVEN WILD ANIMALS HAVE CODES OF CONDUCT AND OBEY THEM.

 

U.S. political figure Todd Akin said that if a woman doesn’t get pregnant then it’s “legitimate rape” and if she does then it isn’t because if she didn’t want the sex then her body would have prevented the pregnancy.

QUESTIONS#3, 4, 5 & 6: WHAT THE FUCK? WHO THE FUCK IS THIS ASSHOLE? WHAT IF IT WERE HIS FEMALE RELATIVE WHO GOT PREGNANT FROM RAPE? IS IT THAT ONLY MEN CAN BE “LEGITIMATELY” RAPED?

80% of sex offenders are likely to repeat their sex crimes.

QUESTIONS#7, 8 & 9: HUH? WHY ARE THEY BEING TREATED IF THEY CAN’T BE CURED? WHY ARE THEY CONSTANTLY BEING RELEASED BACK INTO SOCIETY TO DO MORE HARM?

Earlier this year, in Texas, a father beats a man to death because he caught him molesting his son.

QUESTION#10: WOULDN’T YOU HAVE DONE THE SAME?

Under Islamic law, rape can only be proven if the rapist confesses or if there are four male witnesses.  Women who allege rape, without the benefit of the act having been witnessed by four men who subsequently develop a conscience, are actually confessing to having sex.  If they or the accused happens to be married, then it is considered to be adultery…Since it is incredibly unlikely that a child molester will violate his victim in front of “four trustworthy men”, Islamic law amounts to a free pass for sexual predators…Islamic law rejects forensic evidence (such as DNA) in favor of testimony.  An interesting situation thus sometimes develops in cases where a victim alleges rape and the man denies that sex even took place.  In the absence of four male witnesses, rape cannot be proven.  The woman’s testimony then becomes a “confession” of adultery.  She can be stoned, even though the male is unpunished, since he never “confessed” to a sexual act!

– Courtesy of thereligionof peace.com Guide to Understanding Islam

QUESTIONS#12, 13 & 14: WHAT DID I JUST READ? DOES ANYONE CARE ABOUT THE VICTIMS? DOES IT MAKE SENSE ARGUE THIS ONE?

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QUESTION#15: WHAT WOULD YOU DO OR HAVE DONE IN ANY OF THESE OR ANY OTHER CASES?

Marrying Young

 

No doubt this topic is touchy. The view of a young girl marrying to some ‘big ole oily grey back man’ is seen as carnal abuse, rape, violation of human rights, child rights, and the list goes on. So let’s dig a little deeper. According to Wikipedia, there is some form of justification of such an arrangement which might help you the reader to better understand or simply get you more upset:

Child marriage and child betrothal customs occur in various times and places, whereby children are given in matrimony – before marriageable age as defined by the commentator and often before puberty. Today such customs are fairly widespread in parts of Africa, Asia, Oceania and South America: in former times it occurred also in Europe. It is frequently associated with arranged marriage. In some cases only one marriage-partner is a child, usually the female, due to importance placed upon female virginity, the inability of women to work for money and to women’s shorter reproductive life period relative to men’s.

Yes, unfortunately that ‘ole’ perve can still reproduce. Great. Well this explains why a lot of women freak out when they reach the thirty year mark and are viewed as old. Also, may I just add that it is getting harder and harder to find a sixteen year old virgin these days. Okay, before you attack me for agreeing with these customs let’s take a look at the things we celebrate: Sweet Sixteen, once upon a time it marked a young girl’s coming of age and used to advertise that the daughter was ready to be married (uh huh now you know); in latin american countries they celebrate Quinceañera (their version of sweet sixteen but at the age of fifteen); in Jewish culture a boy comes of age at thirteen (Bar Mitzvah) and girls come of age at twelve (Bat Mitzvah); in Italy and Poland they celebrate the eighteenth birthday. Although . We can agree that not even at 18 years no one is ready for marriage, worse at 12 and 13. What about children being married off as young as 5 or before they were born? I read an article featured in the June 2011 National Geographic called The Secret World of Child Brides (page 78). It featured traditional customs – some illegal but still practised in secret – in India (yup you gonna stop hating me now). Now this is where I draw the line because these poor babies have no clue when the ceremonies are being performed and they grow up hating their ‘oily grey back’ husbands and are miserable.

Thanks to a changing world these practises are being eliminated. That’s good for the children, they can enjoy their childhood, get an education and make their own choices but what happens when you wait too long? There are some women who have been successful in their careers, accomplished all they could without the burden of maintaining a family and answering to a husband, realised in their 40’s they want to get married and have children. What now? As the above excerpt said, a woman’s reproductive life is shorter than that of a man. Besides who wants to marry an old woman? I’m not crude but that is the way of the world. Magazines are filled with 15-year-old models, there are many age-defying potions and anti-ageing creams everywhere being advertised in your face every minute of every day. Of course love can be blind and you may find someone who loves you for other reasons and yes medical technologies are improving even grandmothers can have children, but is it the way it should be? Depending on one’s personal reasons they can get married at any age but marrying young is ideal for many reasons, just to list a few:

  • To build a family the younger the woman the more likely she bares healthy offspring with little or no abnormalities (the possibility of child born with Down’s Syndrome increases as mother-to-be approaches her 40’s).
  • Having children before the age of 30 reduces the risk of developing breast cancer (this sucks! no pun intended).
  • At about age 35 mother-to-be is considered high risk for miscarriage, eclampsia, stillbirth, death of both herself and baby (I did not want to mention this but let’s face it).
  • If marriage fails there is still time and energy to pursue another one (lessons well learned).
  • You get better mortgage rates.
  • You get better insurance benefits especially if you are healthy.
  • You stand a greater chance of actually spending a lot of time with your grandchildren.

I’m sure we can think of more. Don’t get me wrong, I’m totally against Child Marriages. No one should ever get married that young and being a grandmother at 22 is not cute. However, I believe marrying between the ages 24-33 ,at least, is young enough. In this age range more than likely one has a degree, a job, is better at managing finances, have goals and some sort of ambition. I have quite a number of my high school mates who have married before 30 and more have had children before this age too (yes they are educated, are employed and own their own businesses).